18 ways to survive a wedding with toddlers in tow

toddler at wedding

by Adejumoke Ilori |
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We don't know about you but we love a wedding. The dress, the food, the dodgy dance moves from Uncle Pete... What's not to like? However, it’s fair to say formal occasions and youngsters who like to make noise, take naps and explore new surroundings at full pelt, don’t always mix.

Surviving a wedding with toddlers can be a challenge, but with some preparation and creativity, you can ensure it goes smoothly. That's not to say you can't have a wonderful time though.

And, to help you out, here’s a reality check and some top tips to help you get through the big day with little ones, here are 18 ways to help you manage:

  1. Pack Essentials: Bring a bag with snacks, drinks, diapers, wipes, a change of clothes, and their favorite comfort items, this will also give you a stress-free day.

Overhead view of young mother and daughter eating snacks on picnic blanket
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2. Dress Comfortably: Choose comfortable and weather-appropriate clothing for your toddler to avoid fussiness, as the last you want is your toddler feeling un-easy.

3. Bring Entertainment: Pack small toys, coloring books, or a tablet with headphones to keep them occupied ands entertained for a long period of time.

Top view of a large group of colorful toddler toys
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4. Time Naps Wisely: Try to schedule naps around the ceremony and reception so your toddler isn't overtired and feeling restless.

5. Plan for Distractions: Have new or special toys that can hold their interest for a long time.

6. Engage Them in Activities: Involve them in small tasks like handing out programs or being part of the procession, if appropriate.

7. Set Realistic Expectations: Understand that your toddler might not behave perfectly and that's okay, toddlers are fond of going on adventures whereever they are.

8. Locate the Quiet Spots: Locate quiet areas at the venue where you can take your toddler for a break if needed.

9. Use a Carrier or Stroller: For easy movement and to provide a comfortable place for your toddler to rest.

two babies - boy and girl dressed as bride and groom
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10. Coordinate with the Wedding Party: Inform the couple and wedding planner that you’ll have a toddler, so they're aware and can assist if needed.

11. Partner Up: If attending with a partner or another adult, take turns watching the toddler so each of you can enjoy parts of the event.

12. Keep Meals Simple: Bring familiar foods and snacks if the wedding menu isn't toddler-friendly.

13. Have an Exit Strategy: Be prepared to leave early if your toddler becomes too restless or fussy.

14. Interactive Toys: Bring toys that are quiet but engaging, like soft books or small puzzles.

15. Stay Calm: Your toddler will pick up on your stress, so stay calm and patient.

16. Talk About It: Prepare your toddler in advance by talking about what to expect at the wedding.

17. Involve Them in Dancing: Many toddlers enjoy music and dancing, which can be a great way to keep them entertained.

Portrait of 18 months old baby girl smiling and playing at store. Small girl wearing flower wreath and trying on dress at bridal boutique.
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18. Ensure Rest: Make sure your toddler gets a good night's sleep before the wedding day.

Remember, taking a toddler to a wedding can be a delightful experience, but it requires some preparation to ensure a smooth day for both you and your little one. Here are some tips to help you manage:

With these strategies, you can help ensure that both you and your toddler have an enjoyable and memorable time at the wedding.

Mummy to a little girl, Adejumoke Ilori is Commercial Content Writer for Mother&Baby. With a BA hon in Creative Writing, she has worked for digital platforms, where she has empowered women from the inside and out, by sharing real life stories based on relationships, loving yourself and mummyhood.

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